Expectation

Expectation.. I love to talk about this. Expectation means the state of expecting or looking forward to…. ANYTHING!! You can have certain expectation to yourself. Anybody can have certain expectation to his or her friends. Parents can have certain expectation to their children. Boss can have certain expectation to his or her workers. Spouse can have certain expectation to their other half.

I love to say that it is not the expectation that seems to be the problem here but how high is your expectation to yourself and the others around you?

I’m not someone who have high expectation on others and I also won’t like it if anybody have a high expectation on me. Why?

I’m totally agree with Matlutfi regarding the expectation of others in his latest video. ‘Ex-pehpeh-tation’. Honestly, that title is funny.

If you expect yourself to be great in your study (I mean great, not good) you might end up hurting yourself if you just manage to pass your exam with minimum passing marks. Hahaha. (But, you still need to aim big and strive for the best. Suddenly out of nowhere, I’m mumbling the motto of UMW Toyota and Honda .. haha)

If you expect your parents to give you whatever you want just like when you were a child, you might end up hurting yourself if your parents can’t do that anymore. Yeah, of course cuz you are now adult, right? Orang Bota kata ‘dah tue toben’.

If you expect your spouse to be great in everything, you will hurt more… yup, it’s true!!  If you expect your spouse to be good in cleaning, cooking,  treat you like the most special person (prince or princess whatever!) on the earth, the level of disappointment will be higher… Kekeke… This might be one of the reason why the divorce rates are increasing now… I guess so.. But, of course!! Marriage not a fairy tale so don’t expect that!! XD

So now, how is your expectation?

I love his quote ‘ Expect less, hurt less’. That is so true!!

When you have high expectation on others, we will hurt more when they can’t fulfill our expectation. Well, you know that sometimes you can’t really blame the other person but blame yourself for having such high expectation on them. Nobody is perfect. You know it, right?

I hate it if somebody have a high expectation on me because I know they will end up hurting themselves sooner or later. Cause I know I’m just a human being who’s lacking in a lot of things. It doesn’t mean that I’m not trying.. I can do my very best but don’t ask for more. I try to avoid from doing it to others because I know they will feel the same and me myself don’t want to get hurt too.

Avoid putting high expectation on others, so you will likely to accept them as the way they are. So, you will hurt less…

It’s good for you and the others around you… Right?